The loss of a loved on is an absolutely devastating event, regardless if it was expected or not. We spend decades of our lives with certain people, building relationships based on trust and love, and to have that suddenly dissolve is extremely difficult. As you work through the grief remember that it is OK, and likely even a good idea to talk with others about your emotions and feelings. However there are some common misconceptions regarding grieving after a loss. Let’s clear a few things up so you have a better understanding of your feelings in this time of tragedy.
Myth: Grief has a time limit.
The amount of time that one person experiences pain may be completely different than that of another person. You can’t say things like, “You’ll get over it in about a year,” or “The pain will go away soon.” While these statements may see comforting when spoken it can cause issue down the road for people who continue to struggle with the loss long after it occurred.
Myth: Ignoring the pain will make it go away faster.
If you ignore your emotions they will only become bottled up and cause an eventual breakdown that could happen at any time. It is important to face your feelings head on. If necessary seek the help of a counselor or console yourself with friends and family, for as long as necessary to help ease the pain.
Myth: Without tears, you don’t actually care about the loss.
For many people crying is a normal response to sadness, but not everyone. Just because someone is not crying does not mean they are not as emotionally devastated as another family member or friend. There are many other ways people deal with stress, sadness and anger aside from physical tears.
Myth: I need to remain emotionally stable to set an example for my friends and family.
By trying to avoid showing your true feelings you’re more likely causing harm to family that is showing their suffering. They may come to believe they are weak if you hide your emotions. Be sure to talk with your family about your true feelings and don’t feel like you need to protect them by showing a lack of emotion.
Dealing with death is hard and everyone does it differently. Emotions especially run high during the funeral planning and service, which is why it is important to work with a funeral home that understands your pain. At Funeral Alternative we want to help you create a beautiful memorial for your loved one, and we will be there for you every step of the way. Call us today at 1-888-381-6993 to speak with a representative from our funeral home in Marysville about your loss and learn how we can help start the healing process today.
Funeral Alternatives Blog
Written By Brian Corey
Published By MORBiZ